How can you find help and support for Birth Trauma/Perinatal PTSD?
If you have had a traumatic birth and/or feel you are suffering with PTSD it is important to seek help and support. This can be difficult at a time when you are feeling at your most vulnerable.
If you are struggling remember;
- Do not suffer in silence. Speak to someone, a partner, family or a trusted friend. Approach your Midwife, Health Visitor, GP or local primary mental health service.
- Remember you are not alone, there are others too that have been affected by birth trauma and PTSD.
- Remember you are not to blame!
- Look after yourself physically, make sure you rest and eat a good balanced diet.
- Do activities that help you to relax, such as reading, going for a walk or listening to music.
- Know your limitations and what you can do both physically and emotionally.
- Speak to your hospital about your experience. Some women ask to see their medical notes and discuss exactly what happened to them and why. Some hospitals offer a debrief after birth, or birth reflection sessions.
- Seek help and treatment. There are various treatments for PTSD such as counselling, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and medication.
- Find local support groups or support groups on social media (such as Birth Trauma Association, and Unfold Your Wings support page)
- It can help to write about how you are feeling or what you have been through. (You can share your story on the faces of birth trauma page.)
What kind of help/support may you be offered?
- Cognitive behavioural therapy is often used. It allows the person to challenge their thoughts and worries and see/think about them in a different way.
- Counselling can also be of benefit to help process and come to terms with trauma from a difficult birth or time in a NICU unit.
- Mindfulness is a another approach that helps us to become aware of our thoughts and feelings and see how they are unhelpful to us. It helps us stand back from our thoughts and see patterns. Over time we can notice when our thoughts are taking over and this helps us realise we can work to prevent this and find ways so that our thoughts do not control us.
- Medication too can help lessen the physical symptoms of anxiety and provide much needed respite to aid recovery.
Please be as honest and as open as you can with your GP or Healthcare professional so they can suggest the best treatment for you.
Looking for support?
When seeking support for birth trauma or PTSD it can be a minefield knowing who to trust. False promises, unrealistic guarantees and experimental therapies can lead to damage. Also remember that if any treatments are as effective as they claim there will be research to back this up.
So when looking at treatments ask;
- What are the results that are being promised?
- Is there promise of a cure or quick result?
- Are they realistic?
- Is the treatment evidence based?
- Is there some improvement as the treatment progresses?
Remember also that everyone is an individual, with unique experiences, personalities and needs. Not all treatments will work for everyone. This doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you as a person, only that that particular treatment wasn’t right. Finding what does work can take time.
Can you trust them?
What about the people promising help or cures?
Again it can be a minefield, and a local search of any area will turn up numerous counsellors, hypnotherapists, therapists and so on. It can be hard to know who to go to for treatments that will aid recovery.
There are many organisations to check therapists such as British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (bacp). All practitioners should be registered with some form of organisation that provides them with support, advice, supervision and accreditation.
You can also ask;
- What training and qualifications do they hold?
- Are the qualifications nationally recognised?
- What results do they profess the treatments offer?
- Do they have genuine, honest references?
- How long have they been practicing?
- Do they promise a ‘cure’, or rather support to help manage symptoms?
- Is their treatment evidence based?
- Is their research peer reviewed, modern, repeatable and of representative sample size?
Sensationalised claims of being able to cure birth trauma or PTSD quickly are unrealistic and a red flag to move on. Birth Trauma and PTSD needs specialist treatment and support.
The recovery from Birth Trauma and Perinatal PTSD maybe a long and difficult journey, but it is possible.
Take each day slowly.
Be gentle with yourself and don’t expect too much of yourself.
Just like any illness, recovery takes time, help and support.
If you need medication use it to help you while you recover.
Lean on those that love you and accept their help.
Talk about your feelings if you can and look for local support groups when your ready.
But most of all don’t give up! You will recover and break out of the dark cocoon of birth trauma and PTSD.
You can find out more about accessing support in the Out of the Blue project