‘It isn’t in my blood’

“Help me, it’s like the walls are caving in.Sometimes I feel like giving upBut I just can’t.It isn’t in my blood.” Shawn Mendes “Laying on the bathroom floor, feeling nothing.I’m

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Birth Trauma and Suicide

It’s hard to talk about birth trauma, but even harder to talk about suicide. Yet I know from the women that contact me and my own experience that dealing day

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Breastfeeding – My Lifeline

I could barely hold the funnel to my breast. My hands, swollen and numb grasped as hard as they could, my body, weak, hardly had the strength I needed. I

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Money disguised as Hope

You know the ones I mean. You have seen them. The all singing websites and the glossy leaflets. You scroll down and see smiling, happy faces and the testimonies that

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What is a positive birth?

The experience of birth will stay with a woman her whole life time Ask any women her birth story and she will recount it with easy, there is no experience

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What matters in birth?

There are growing conversations about helping women to have what is termed a ‘normal birth’, that is a birth free of interventions including no pain relief etc. Years ago, for

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Are we valuing patient engagement?

Over the last few years I have been privileged to be part of some very important discussions around supporting parents and families within healthcare. As a patient rep its is

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The many Faces of Birth

Birth has many faces and no one situation prevails, it is as individual to each woman, baby and family as a fingerprint. Often things such a ‘risk’, ‘normal’ and ‘natural’

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Continuity of Carer matters

There has been a lot of talk recently about continuity of carer in maternity services and the difference it can make it women, babies and families. The National Maternity Review

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Happy Birthday Little One

All around are bright coloured balloons, the cake waiting for candles to be lit and wishes to be made. Gifts wrapped in shiny paper call out to be opened. Deep

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Your sadness matters.

When it comes to the birth of a baby sadness isn’t an emotion that we usually think of. Joy, happiness and excitement instead come to mind, with glowing parents holding

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Finding moments of light

“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” Hafiz of Shiraz Some days the darkness was overwhelming. I felt

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Preventing Birth Trauma-How?

Supporting families after a difficult and traumatic birth of course is so important but we need to address how we can prevent trauma from a difficult birth in the first

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